Disabilities, Mental Health, wellness

Beginning a Wellness Class

I wanted to start by saying that I have been a bit stressed the past few weeks which is why I am posting so late. I try to post.

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Wellness class: Week 1

After starting at Southern New Hampshire University (SNHU) in June, I was happy to find out that I was able to take a class about Wellness. Since this blog is based on that aspect of life and trying to find natural ways to help with our everyday lives, I decided that while I was taking this class, I would make my weekly posts as a reflection of the previous week of class.

This week it was an obvious introduction and we were asked what the difference between health and wellness was. I am going to say again what I posted and elaborate a bit more.

I think a complete definition of health would be the state of someone’s body. Like, if they are free from illness if they have ongoing chronic pain, etcetera. Wellness I believe is the way you take care of your body to either keep yourself healthy or aid in the management of an illness you already have. Such things would be your state of mind as well as physical things such as taking vitamins as well as doing Yoga and meditation. I think the main difference between health and wellness is that health is just that. Health, which is the state of how your body is while wellness is the way you take care of your body whether it is in good condition or not.

With wellness, especially with learning natural ways to stay healthy or maintain health, there are so many ways to do it. Even the simple idea of positivity is a perfect start to a wellness plan. I think that this class will be a great asset to learning more about this topic and being able to help others who want to know more about how to use wellness.

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Disabilities, Mental Health, Uncategorized

“Family Doesn’t End (or Start) in Blood”

A family is always supposed to be there for you no matter what the cost. You do everything for them and you expect to have the same respect and kindness in return. Sometimes, however, when you find your “true” self spiritually, emotionally, and physically certain family members can make life difficult. They may have good intentions, but if they do not open their minds and realize that nothing can make you change to the way they want you to be. Sometimes, no matter how much you try to please them nothing works. They become rude and refuse to hear things that you want to say.

This is something I have to live with. Technically, it is called “emotional” or “mental” abuse. I don’t believe my abuser realizes what they are doing. They are stuck in their ways and do not believe that anything should change. Men are men. Women are women. To them, gender identities do not exist. Men do male jobs, women to women jobs. By 30, you should have a job (even if you hate it). They believe that you should be able to do “any job” even though your primary doctor agrees with you that you have a chronic illness like Fibromyalgia.

In my situation, I am forced to live with my parents. They are respectful towards me… at least my mother is… However, because I am currently unemployed and working on school and part-time freelancing, while at the same time sending application after application out into the world and receiving nothing back from potential employees. Those from the “baby boomer” generation continuously find ways to nitpick everything I do. The only spec of comfort that I have is when I am able to find my way into my bedroom just to escape. My room is my only solace where I have my computer and phone. Music, videos, writing, and video games help me to forget the insecurities that my so-called “family” members have put inside of my head.

I place “family” in quotes because, at this point in my life, I have realized that my close friends are more family to me than my own blood. I have chosen siblings that care for me and a wonderful girlfriend that I thank the gods every day that I have. She has been the first partner I have found that does not negate my anxiety but helps to calm me. Despite the thoughts that she might leave me too one day, she reminds me that she never will.

One of the best lines in current Television comes from the show Supernatural. “Family doesn’t end in blood.” Bobby Singer says that to the boys and it sticks with them. He is like a father to the boys just like how my friends are like siblings. Dean goes on to say “…it doesn’t start there either.” That in itself is the meaning of this post. Once I am finally able to move out, I have decided that I will live the way I want. Decorate the way I wish, practice my spirituality the way I wish, and live the life I am meant to live. If family members disagree and continue to try and change me, I will not associate myself with them anymore even if that means never going to family functions any longer. As long as I have her and all my chosen siblings my life will be complete.

Disabilities, Mental Health

Finding Jobs That Might Accommodate for Disabilities

Even though it is not exactly ideal, I have had my fair share of retail jobs. Many were hard to obtain or keep because of my learning, mental, and sometimes physical limitations. I found that despite the law that employers are not allowed to discriminate against disabilities, many “politely decline” me employment suspiciously after I mention anything about my disabilities. True, they may have simply found a better fit for the job, however, I only notice that I receive this reaction when I mention my lack of ability to do something like the cash register.

I never wavered when I continuously looked for a job. I started to realize that certain things I said either made or broke my chances. The methods I developed may not work for everyone’s situation but I am going to share a few that may help someone one day.

  • Search for jobs at stores, factories, and offices that have multiple positions available. There is always a higher chance to be able to do at least one of these positions without accommodation. If I am confident that I will be able to obtain at least one of these positions, I will not have to worry about disclosing any information about my disabilities during the interview.
  • Apply to at least two or three jobs a day. This way, I usually have a higher chance of obtaining at least an interview. Once I accept a position somewhere, I can freely take or decline any other offers during other interviews depending on how I feel about the position I was given such as compensation, hours, and the atmosphere.
  • Try not to take too many days off until at least three to six months into a new job. I know there are a lot of things that happen in life, but when I first get a job I only request off if I have an already planned vacation, doctor’s appointment, or something else like that. I try my best to make it in when I am not feeling well but if it is bad enough that I cannot function, such as when my vertigo acts up, I call out. Even if I am running a few minutes late, I always make sure to call just in case. I also try to take extra shifts whenever they ask me to take if I am available to take them. These things help my employer know that I am reliable and give good references for school or other jobs.

If there is a store opening, and/or they are hiring for a seasonal position, apply! I have gotten a job with two companies that were opening stores and got the job since I applied early enough. I also stayed at three jobs that I applied to that were originally seasonal positions because they liked me. I used the previous three techniques which helped me keep those jobs.

These are only a handful of techniques that I use. I found that they really helped me and I believe they can help others like myself. I hope whoever reads this succeeds in finding a job and possibly a career.