Moving Options

Living in a place where you are always afraid to say the wrong thing is difficult. It is even more so when the person you are afraid to talk to is a family member. Someone who you are supposed to be close to.  Moving is my only way to escape

I hate that I am at the point where I need to move out to get into a better headspace. I have no one locally that I could move with and my significant other is worried we would rush things since we only started dating for a year so far. So what are the options I could do?

Moving to Another State

My friend Maria up in Connecticut has also been wanting to move out of her parent’s home. She offered to move with me and my friend Lucius offered to help me with a U-Haul since he loves driving. 

I love it up there. I feel as if the air is fresher, even if the winters are harsher. There are so much more wooded areas in proximity than there are here. I feel like where I live, I would need to drive to get to them. Since no one I know can teach me how to drive, I’d have to shell out about a thousand dollars just to learn and get my license. 

If I move up there, Maria will teach me how to drive and she understands how my anxiety works. 

Work vs School 

Working part-time as a student is hard enough. I tried out full-time status for this session just to see if I could handle it. I did so pretty well! The problem came when my supervisor left for a vacation and I ended up taking most of her shifts. I can handle the shifts, but getting schoolwork done on time required me to work early. 

I could handle it because I knew ahead of time what I needed to get done, mostly. However, if I work full-time hours along with weekend shifts, it is very difficult to do both at that status.

Full-time Work

My other option for moving out would be if a full-time position here where I work opened up that I could handle. Since I cannot do physical work, anything of that nature would be difficult for me full-time. I would need a position in an office setting. 

Getting certified in electronic medical records will be very helpful in helping me find a position either in that area where I work or somewhere else. If I was to get a full-time job, I could keep doing school half-time and move out. 

Financial pros and cons

Pros of CT


If I was to move up to Connecticut, there would be a lot to think about. I need to raise a good amount of funds before I leave just in case I cannot get a job right away or before I get there. I believe her mother works at a hospital, so I might find one through her. 


I also have about 1000 from student loans every two months. I will be using the money I get from that to pay for my certification class and to help save for moving out. 

If I chose Connecticut, I could easily find a full- or part-time position (hopefully) with the certification and receptionist experience. I could live off of a part-time position until I graduated.

Cons of CT

I would live very far from my family. Planes cost a fortune, and while they are less expensive, busses are chaotic when attempting to travel back and forth. I would have to plan my trips home in advance paying for Amtrak.

I would be also far away from my significant other. However, she enjoys traveling so she will to come up and see me. 

I could easily live off of my loan money as a full-time student and a part-time job. That means I have to either have money saved up or find a full-time position immediately after I graduate. Part-time would also mean I can keep my SNAP and Medicaid until I graduate. 

Pros of full-time here.

If I lived on my living around here, I would still be close to my family and significant other. However, I would not have to worry about roommates and I can eat what I need to.

I can save up as much as I can each month and buy what I want when I want to.


Cons of full-time here:

If I found a full-time job around here, it would mean that all the rent would be up to me. Most of my money would go towards rent and I would lose SNAP and Medicaid benefits. I would have to pay for those things on top of rent and utilities.

I have, in the past, went above budget on things and I was terrible with money. Living alone might make me so lonely that I would want to buy things to make me feel better. Even though I want a cat for emotional support, it would just be me and them only.

Without the option to graduate sooner, I would still in school for a long time instead of being free to live a successful life. The only way it could be successful is if I found someone who will help me get success.



There are a lot of cons with both, but it seems like living on my own might be harder on me. Few pros go to that idea. The only option I see that is best is to move up to CT and hope I find either a full-time or (mostly) part-time job.


I know it doesn’t sound ideal to work a part-time job. With my Fibromyalgia and other issues, I feel like personally; it is the best. Being reliant on SNAP is not ideal either, but it is only temporary. As a person with severe Chronic Illness and Generalized Anxiety, full-time work alongside full-time school is not an option I can handle. Either way, moving is a hard thing to do.


Long Awaited Update

Hello everyone, 

I apologize for not posting in so long. I had been in a bad place physically, emotionally, and mentally. I had not been taking CBD on a daily basis along with my multi-vitamin which caused my pain, fatigue, and anxiety to worsen and worsen. Now, I take 500mg of CBD oil every night and I make sure to remember my vitamin. 

The best news that happened in my absence is that I have finally been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. Now that I have the official diagnosis, I can get on the right medications so it can help me handle my symptoms better while I try my best. 

I know this post is a little short. I promise that I will be trying to post more often even if it is just a post from my classes. I am also going to be enrolling in a non-credit course at my old Community College for Electronic Medical Records certification. This way, it can help me in my employment endeavors.

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Everyday Carry

There are so many preppers out there that claim bug out bags and gear are the most important part of prepping. That is not always the case. I feel as though the first thing you need to do is to begin by preparing what you need for your everyday life. EDC is the term used to refer to everyday carry. EDC can be done in various ways, but the best way to start is to use the basics.

What is Everyday Carry Gear?

The best way to begin is to gather all the things you usually use when you leave the house for work, school, and other types of travel. Try to minimize all that you can even if it takes a few tries to rearrange things. Examples of these things would be a tablet and/or computer, phone, chargers, notepad and pens or pencils, possibly mints and/or gum, and your wallet. Naturally, if you smoke, a lighter with a pack of cigarettes could be added to your bag.

Next comes the “extended-outing” supplies. These things can include things you would need if you stayed out longer than expected. These would comprise food, water bottles, some hygiene products (those of the female sex might add feminine products), and any prescription or over-the-counter medication you would need. Finally, emergency supplies could range from a mini first aid kit to a mini survival kit.

Mini kits for EDC

As far as mini first aid kits go, the first thing to think of is any prescription or over-the-counter medications you use. In an emergency these items are essential.

Next, would be the bandages you can buy at any store. Whether you spend the money to buy a small set from a drugstore (the dollar store to save money) or even create your own, these kits are perfect for situations where you or someone else has a small or decent sized cut. With these bandages should be some antiseptic wipe or gel to disinfect the wounds and antibiotic treatment such as Neosporin or some generic brand.

As for mini-survival kits, keep it simple. Putting together something small is the best way to keep everything minimalistic. The simplest things to stay with you would be a lighter and/or matches if you don’t smoke, a folded-up sheet of aluminum foil (for cooking if needed), a tiny sewing kit, a cheap poncho, and some cordage such as para-cord or even shoelaces. You can find all of these things in a local Dollar Tree.

Some other things to add could be small and cheap multi-tools and emergency blankets. You can find these on Amazon and small organizers to help keep all of your everyday carry preps organized.

Special EDC

Depending on where you live or what you’re certified in or with, you can add other things to your EDC. If you get yourself certified in First Aid, or if you are a healthcare professional, additional items to your first aid kit could be added if desired such as a trauma kit. If you have a license to carry a pistol on you and you wish to bring one for protection, you may also add that to your prep. If you do not have a license or do not like guns but want to add security, you can add simple things such as pepper spray or, as long as you check out your state’s guidelines, insert a small knife or dagger.

Where to Start?

These are a few cheap recommendations to get started on your everyday carry. Amazon also has various bags that can be found depending on your everyday needs.

EDC pouch organizer- https://amzn.to/2Tg4CTd

Hard wallet with RFID- https://amzn.to/2DCtFuc

Set of emergency blankets- https://amzn.to/2COvym0

Wallet multitool- https://amzn.to/2G4Ky2f


New Schedule

New Schedule

Hello everyone! This post adding to the update a few days ago. Just wantenwd to let you all know that I will be trying to add more blog posts each week. I am currently working on moving to another state, and doing online class as well. Therefore, it all depends on my every changing schedule since I am working on moving out along with doing schoolwork.


Personal update

The New Year has not exactly been kind to me, but it is giving me the inspiration to finally get out. After my ruined birthday and a lot of thinking my significant other and I have decided to make a bold move from the East Coast of Delaware/Pennsylvania to West Fargo, North Dakota. I have a very close friend there who is helping me find a place. The rent is low, the wage is higher than it is here, and there are more opportunities for employment.

As for me, I will be working on work at home opportunities such as this blog. There will be a lot of changes coming to this blog including adding affiliate links to some of my posts. This will mainly be for the blog posts that I have done research on and have personally used products or books to help myself or others. I hope that everyone has a great day!